Welcome to Create the Happy.
I thought it would be good to take a moment to explain what Create the Happy is all about so that you can decide if you would like to follow along. So here goes.
What is it that makes you happy?
Do you know? Some of us have some kind of idea of one or two things that give us a fleeting sense of happiness, but what is it that makes you really happy long term?
Often somewhere along the way, we forget to think about this anymore or we may not take the time to realise that it is important to reassess what makes us happy based on our current circumstances.
Or maybe we give up, or forget, or become distracted or become neglectful of our own happiness in order to build up someone else’s.
All these things are normal and practical and part of life’s journey.
But they normally land us all in the same place eventually; wondering what happened to our happiness and questioning wether or not we can get it back.
Well I am here to tell you the good news- you definitely can.
There is a lot of research and there have been a lot of boffins, scientists, scholars, academics, hippies, freaks, geeks, entrepreneurs and more who have researched it and the consensus is this; there are things you can do to create the happy in your own life.
But what are they I hear you mumble to your computer screen?
Well here is a little cheat sheet.
- eat well
- have a spiritual life
- connect with others
- be optimistic
- problem solve
The longer version is this…
For me happiness is about a sense of inner wellbeing. It is about purpose and hope and connection. It is about sometimes smiling and sometimes laughing and sometimes crying but always being present. It is about the ability to experience joy and peace and gift these good things to the people that surround you.
Contrary to popular opinion though, being happy is not about avoiding being sad. Nor is it about avoiding anger, grief, frustration anxiety or any of the other more daunting emotions. In fact people who seek after happiness by squishing down these other emotions will only end up with a preoccupation with pain.
All of our emotions are there to be expressed and experienced and most importantly they are signposts for us as to what is going on in our world, or what has gone on in our world in the past.
Create the Happy is about taking a little bit of time to explore ways to increase happiness in your own life.
In trying to create your happy you might find yourself getting a little lost, a little stuck, with some other emotion and that is Ok. When we set about to repress, block or avoid any emotion we set up an internal battle within ourselves that is powerful, consuming and painful. Importantly if any one emotion becomes too strong of overwhelming a simple solution is to seek out a professional to help you straighten it all out.
Life can be complicated, messy and hard but seeking solutions is empowering and powerful and getting help is often the perfect solution. It is important to remember that life is not too complicated messy or hard in fact it is just the amount that it is. Counteract with equal intensity and you will find yourself getting through it.
So being happy is not about avoiding unhappy, so what is it?
Create the Happy is all about creating the life you want, one step at a time.
I really believe that people have mastery over their own lives, and that everyone can make daily choices that bring joy, peace and wellbeing to their door.
Here at Create the Happy we encourage you to make small decisions daily that will provide you with a sense of happiness in your life. This includes chasing the way you respond to your circumstances, identifying what it is you want out of life and working hard to make those things happen.
Create the happy is not about what you do, but how you do it and it is not about the big things, rather it is about the small droplets that make up your happiness puddle.
So no matter what your life experience and no matter where you are at right now, chose to create your own happy today. Be the master of your own inner world. Build your own happiness lake by starting today with one drop.
So if you would like to follow along then head over to Facebook or sign up on the blog.
I try and post a Wednesday Wellbeing “Create the Happy” post and every now and then I run a little series.
Currently we are in the middle of the 31 days of gratitude challenge. Come join in .
I would love to hear from you so please join in. Sharing is caring and we all have different experiences and and perspectives to share with each other.
Thanks for reading along and I look forward to getting to know you.
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