“And hand in hand, on the edge of the sand,
They danced by the light of the moon.”
― Edward Lear, The Owl and the Pussycat
What makes you happy? That beautiful, fluttering, elusive feeling that all of us seem to seek after?
I have read a lot about this sweet little state. I have even been to a conference and heard the master guru’s speak on this topic.
The research suggests there are number of things that contribute to overall happiness.
- Having enough money. No need to have too much.
- Connection with others.
- Working hard
- Giving back, volunteering and having an outward focus.
- Being grateful and seeing the good.
- Having a faith or religion.
Overall though, happiness seems to occur when we have a frequent number of good experiences with a few very intense ones. So this means that day by day, we need to seek, find and own the small, enjoyable things that happen in our lives. I wrote recently about “My thankfulness flower” and this is an example of a small daily thing, that makes me feel happy.
But, we also need to have a few big, lovely, enjoyable experiences. I love going on holiday, making a cake, eating dinner at a great restaurant, swimming in the beach.
What gives you a buzz? What experiences lift your mood? What makes you smile on the inside? I wonder if you can make a list of twenty small things that make you feel happy and twelve big things.
If you are having trouble thinking of things then try using this.
It is a really cool questionnaire that lists over 300 different activities that people might find pleasant of enjoyable. What I really like about it is that it reminds me of things that I love doing, but that I had forgotten about or disregarded. Like having house guests, reading a newspaper or seeing beautiful scenery.
“Happiness is a warm puppy.”
― Charles M. Schulz
But, being obsessed with gaining happiness has its own pitfalls and blocking out unhappiness is fraught. More on that another time.
In the meantime, I’d love to hear what is on your list. Feel free to comment in the section below. Or head over and join my new “Create the Happy” group on Facebook.
Look forward to seeing you there.
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